It seems difficult to comprehend that someone who had such reservations about her suitor would commit to an improvement regimen such as future First Lady Louisa Adams undertook. Her father even rented a small house for her so she could be free from distraction and work on remaking herself. This was a young woman who was already accomplished in many areas. She was highly educated, well read, had a lovely singing voice and wrote poetry and essays.
Meanwhile, from afar, John Quincy Adams wrote letters asking for a written report on her progress. In response to this, Louisa decided to ignore his request. John Quincy was gone for 14 months and, presumably, when he returned to England he found his intended enough to his liking to push for the wedding, or maybe it was just that absence makes the hear grow fonder. (No word on whether she ever finished his reading list).